
The Spirit of Nelson Mandela
Nelson Mandela accomplished what is nearly a miracle. It is not his long suffering in prison for 27 years or his constancy of purpose in pursuing a revolution through non-violence. Ghandi, Martin Luther King and others also endured suffering in their pursuit of revolutionary change. But, Nelson Mandela came to power in a country that was clearly divided and in which there was enormous potential for retribution and retaliation against those who had used violence and oppression themselves.
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” – Nelson Mandela
“If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.” – Nelson Mandela
Mandela became a figure of almost religious significance in that he recognized the spiritual challenge of uniting his country. He preached to his followers to turn the other cheek, to extend the hand of friendship, even love, to those who had committed violence against them. It is an incredible achievement that he was able to convince his followers to pursue the goal of unity over justice. The trials held after the end of apartheid were not to seek justice as it is traditionally understood. Rather they were correctly calledTruth and Reconciliation Trialsfor the purpose of exposing the truth of the atrocities committed under apartheid and seeking reconciliation between the offended and the offender. By instilling the spirit of unity in the country the violence that is so often the result of revolutions was avoided and the country moved forward.
While Mandela was elected president, it was always the impression that he had little or no ambition for personal power. His ambition was for the unity and progress of his country.
George Washington and the Sacrifice of Ego
As a student of American history I can’t help but notice some similarities with the Founding Father of our own country, George Washington, who also had little ambition for personal power and preferred, after the Revolutionary War, to return to his farm and pursue a peaceful life out of the spotlight. But, he was drafted to become the first president and he similarly faced great divisions even within his own cabinet. Without leadership capable of creating unity out of diversity, the country could easily have disintegrated.
Both Mandela and Washington had a sense for their own unimportance and the importance of something much greater than their own personality or interests. They both achieved greatness by their lack of ego and their sacrifice for their vision of a united people.
But, they had something else. It is what I have long referred to as affection and affiliation with their followers. When giving my Barbarians to Bureaucrats talk I have long used the example of Alexander the Great who always suffered with his soldiers when they suffered. His expression of affection, love for his soldiers, was returned in loyalty that is achieved in no other way.
In the July-August issue of the Harvard Business Review there is an article that asks the question “is it better for leaders to be lovable (warmth, trust, affiliation) or strong (competence and credentials)?” (Connect, Then Lead by Amy J.C. Cuddy, Mathew Kohut, and John Neffinger) The authors report that “Most leaders today tend to emphasize their strength, competence and creditials in the workplace, but that is exactly the wrong approach. Leaders who project strength before establishing trust run the risk of eliciting fear, and along with it a host of dysfunctional behaviors.” The authors quote research by Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkmann that conclude that the chances that a manager who is strongly disliked will be considered a good leader are only about one in 2,000. They suggest that a growing body of evidence suggests that the way to influence, to lead, is to begin with warmth. “Warmth is the conduit of influence: it facilitates trust and the communication and absorption of ideas.” Prioritizing warmth helps you connect immediately with those around you, demonstrates that you hear them, understand them, and can be trusted by them.
Both Mandela and Washington demonstrated affection, warmth, toward those whom they sought to lead. In the case of Mandela he went out of his way to demonstrate warmth toward those who were both his oppressors and those who now feared him.
Mohamed Morsi and the Failure of Leadership
In each case these leaders came to power representing some tribal group (whether an actual tribe or a group with a tribal mind) and the leader consolidated his power within his tribe and at the same time alienated those of other groups or interests. This is a prescription that guaranties disunity and disintegration. It is the inverse of the path followed by both Mandela and Washington.
Mohamed Morsi has failed to understand the meaning of Mandela’s words “For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.”By failing to express appreciation and affection for those who are not members of the Muslim Brotherhood, but those who simply are seeking a better life with the freedoms we all seek to enjoy, he has sacrificed his legitimacy.
So, what does this have to do with leaders in the corporate world? Each can reflect on these examples and draw your own conclusions, but let me suggest the following:
- The first responsibility of a leader is to create unity of energy and effort and that can only be achieved by demonstrating affection and affiliation, for not only your own group, but for those who are most different than yourself and who may have the most to fear from your power. Power is not diminished by this demonstration of warmth, rather it is enhanced. Warmth is the first act of competent leadership.
- In too many cases I have seen a new CEO appointed who emerged from the marketing organization, for example, and it was viewed as a victory for the tribe of marketing who would now dominate over manufacturing or other groups. This division is the seed of internal conflict and that represents the waste of energy and effort.
- All great leaders view themselves as servants to others. The servant leadership idea, that the leader is not there for his own aggrandizement, but rather for service to those he or she seeks to lead, requires the sacrifice of ego, but ironically results in the highest form of respect.
- All organizations, like countries, reach maturity when they place principles and process above personalities. Any country or company that is dependent on any personality is inherently weak. The sustainability of an organization or country requires that its strength rest on the quality of its processes and principles, not on its personalities.
